If you’re over the age of 50 and consider yourself shy, the dating world is probably very intimidating. It’s possible you haven’t been in the dating game for a long time either, so getting back on the horse is always difficult at first. Hey, this is why we’re here today. We want to help it be as easy as possible to overcome. Here are a few tips that will have you getting dates left and right without even working hard for them.
Be Open Minded
In the past you probably had a certain type of woman that you felt was best for you. This could include a certain hair color, the right age group, what she enjoys doing, and even how well she looked or dressed. When you reach your fifties some of this criteria can be thrown out the window. After all, you’re not trying to find the hottest woman out there; you’re trying to find a companion that you can enjoy time with whenever you get together.
So it’s possible that the perfect woman for you now is not the same choice as someone you were looking for in your 20s or 30s. The more open minded you are about the choices, the easier it will be to find a date for the evening.
Build Natural Conversation
We know you’re probably going to have to work on this a bit, because shy guys have the hardest time having natural conversations. There always seems to be uncomfortable pauses in between the conversation for a shy guy over 50. In order to change this you have to be prepared before you talk with a woman. However, you can’t make it sound like you’re reading off a checklist. Let everything flow as naturally as possible and she enjoys the time spent with you.
Pick a Secluded Location
One of the biggest mistakes any man makes when picking a location for a date is heading out to the bars. Sure you might have dinner first, but going to a bar is only providing her with a lot more temptation. These are prime spots for single men to be sitting around, so if you want the focus on you then take her somewhere secluded. It doesn’t have to be romantic, but just somewhere that isn’t surrounded by tons of people.
This will give you a chance to really get to know one another.
Let Her know you’re a bit Shy
Well, don’t walk up to her and say; “Hi, I’m a bit shy.” What we mean by this is just try not to come off as shy during your initial encounter. However, if you get more dates with her, eventually you can let her know how shy you really are around women. By this time, it won’t be a big deal, but if you tell her on the first date, she might “shy” away (pun intended).
In the end, if you try all these tips and for some reason they don’t work, it’s time to take a different route. Consider online dating sites if you can’t seem to get over that shy feeling. They allow you to setup a profile so women can see you. This means less work for you, and they will already be interested before you even meet. This will definitely take away from the intimidation factor.